Children are ill, medication should be the parent.

　Son of a gentleman after puberty is very rebellious, Moody and impatient, irritable, contradict their parents, also had a few back runaways, even when you are sad couple of days for that matter.

　　They let me help persuade children, but as spectators of the familiar with the family, I know very well that the problem is not on the children, on their own.

　　A gentleman was nice, usually good for wives, family responsibilities are also strong. Just more irritable, impulsive, irritable, often can't control their emotions, even at a friend's Party, too cannot help but shout at his wife. And his wife, but also a man of weak character, rarely open rebellion against the husband, only comes to sulk, then his frustrations out on his son.

　　Between husband and wife there is a problem at a time, my son will suffer, mothers will find any reason, such as the last test results so not ideal, scolded him. And the father, and will stand up to defend the son, let her even more angry, and found two men linked hands to deal with their own, continued by son played to vent their anger, son became a scapegoat for marital conflict.

　　The war between mother and son, father be attracted to join, the father in order to alleviate the mother-child relationship, will take the initiative to please and please your wife, so as to relax the strained relationship. So the results are more contributed to this cycle: every marital conflict broke out, the mother would have to be angry with his son, looking for her husband to join.

Son of maelstrom which is the passive involvement of parent conflict, he had no ability to understand all the rules and reasons will only be requested by the parents ' changing emotions, harsh, and somehow blame. Sons living in the environment of the insecurity, stress and injury, infection to frustration over between my parents, grow after puberty, he felt his strong, lots of repressed emotions and frustration concentrated outbreak of the rebellion, extreme, fight back.

　　I try to communicate with them the idea, hoping to improve their relationships and conflict-management practices, but they seem to be hard to understand, insist that couple's problems will not affect the child, son is too naïve. They even consider taking the children to see doctors suspected child schizophrenia.

　　Such a parent was so numb, they fragmented relationships on children's physical and psychological effects, disregarding some rules for their marriage. They don't want to admit themselves caused the problem, they only know the child is ill, you should give children medicine, like headaches, foot pain foot.

　　I have a relative, the same relationship disharmony, when my mother then said in front of her own husband's ill, complaining of unfair treatment, condemned men how hateful those complaints as a seed buried deep in their daughter's mind, ground-breaking and germination, grow up, eventually became the great trees.

 　Now her daughter is over 30 years old, do not love not marriage, say they hate the man, MOM found her metamorphosis, "the woman not married is going on? "Daughter to refute her:" you say and my dad is a lifetime of marriage's biggest mistake? "" When did I say that? "Mother denies she is about forgetting my young daughter a teary crying tears," your father is not really something, MOM is in this life was ruined by him. ”

　　Daughter listening to these ignorant, frightened of her mother's tears and small, the disappointment of men, the fear of marriage, thus becoming the shadow of her life that it cannot be ignored.

　　United States family therapist, early study of family systems JIEYI·Hali once pointed out: "we have found that patients with schizophrenia and his mother a lot. ”

　　Not only mothers, stressful family, bad relationships, parental error of ways, will affect a child's growth and physical and mental health.

　　Born in 1986, Shen had been considered to be side by side with Li Yundi and Lang Lang genius level of young pianists, has commented in the New York Times, Shen wenyu teenage performance, "Shen is a cool philosopher's genius, he could conquer any lift top piano technical difficulties, of music of a more introspective instinct, he will become undisputed piano virtuoso. ”

 Boyhood Shen showed unparalleled talent for music, over eight of the famous pianist Zhou guangren said, "he is a genius, never seen such a genius. "Zhou guangren later became one of his teachers, he was 11 years old studying in Germany, in Germany Karlsruhe University of music, Hanover University of music and drama, 17, won the 14th session of the Queen Elisabeth International Piano competition, second prize, also became the youngest winner in tournament history; 18 years old in the United States won the Championship at the Rachmaninoff international piano competition held in Los Angeles. The European music scene will be named China's he and Lang Lang, Yundi Li piano trio.

　　Such talent has touched his glorious bright future, he was in Germany already has brokerage, just graduated from Hanover for half a year. But 19 years old attended to return as a watershed in his life, and now he was nearly 30, most performances offer music from the third-tier cities in China. Sometimes for months, he had a concert. Later, better, about ten laichang per year, but also far from professional pianist performing frequency.

　　Home was inherited from the father Shen xiaoyuansheng stick, stubborn for no reason, known as Germany Kai Lin troika of music education is hard to understand this, "as he opened the door to a career in Europe, but he insisted on returning. ”

　　Shen used to listen to his father's arrangement, and xiaoyuansheng is a very arrogant person, "I often say to Shen, you stayed to hear my words, you're a genius, super genius I am. "Before he put his energy into promoting themselves, he has written more than 30 articles, all reflections on State Affairs, mail directly to country-led%B

 Home tube very Shen yan, mother to buy food to Cook, anytime, my father is responsible for providing thought and decision-making. Parents meddling in his love, does not allow him to go out, there is always a time that Shen isolated pure, even become an obstacle to his music. Experts have suggested that he should know more about the life, "for example, make a girlfriend, may have feelings about music. "Lang Lang's teacher graffman believes that" his piano technique is very good, but he needs a mentor ... ... He should be independent and be himself. ”

　　Many people believe that the genius of bleak, because parents guidance and errors arrangement, xiaoyuansheng refused to recognize. Once a broker to contact them, referring to Shen today all problems of the parents so mad at xiaoyuansheng, and even had a heart attack.

　　But he admits, "was determined to return home, maybe they really are our thoughtless! "Once South Africa music think that Shen has incredible skill," as is not like a light bulb burned out, can become a master in the future. "Now Shen live play, walk, little sent the letter, look at sports, and occasionally glanced at a few dramas with her mother's life, like a" laid off workers ". He lived up to his genius, and also burned his genius.

　　Very few parents intentionally harm their child, all this inadvertently occur. When children children suffering from forest of "disorders" and look completely different when they became vacant, don't know where, just trying to give children medicine, did not know that most people should take medicine, their own.
　
 Do a happy man, a happy couple, responsible for their own life, when the family was successful, a steady living, children's diseases, naturally recover.